Hi everyone! I know, it’s a rare Saturday post but I missed the commemoration of this day last year and so I wanted to do a manicure for it this year. In case you aren’t aware, October – specifically October 15 – is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month. This can be a difficult topic to talk about – in fact many people do not ever open up about the losses they’ve suffered. It is better than it was in my mother’s day but still, it isn’t really an open topic.
Part of that, I think, is because of the sensitive nature of miscarriages & infant death. It can be hard, heart-wrenching to talk about that kind of pain. Add in that most people are uncomfortable with talk of death, or dealing with another’s grief, and most people struggle alone.
But you don’t have to struggle alone! After my last miscarriage, I found support online in a Facebook group and in the Facebook page October 15 Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. To be supported by others going through a similar journey, and to support others helped my own grief journey.
If you are struggling with the aftermath of an infant death or a miscarriage, please reach out. Please talk to someone. If your baby was named, please ask people to say your baby’s name. Your baby is not forgotten. ❤
In honor of my own miscarriages, I wanted to create a hopeful manicure. Not hopeful because after years of infertility I was able to get pregnant again, successfully, but hopeful in that I was able to work through my own grief journey.
I started with a base of OPI My Boyfriend Scales Walls on all fingers except my ring finger. I then watermarbled OPI Sailing & Nailing (the blue) and OPI Flip Flops & Crop Tops (the pink) over the top.
I wanted to create the watermarble in a pattern that looked like a flame, that in my heart my children are never forgotten.
On my ring finger, I used 3 coats of Octopus Party Nail Lacquer Metaphysics topped by 1 coat of Baroness X Dioscouri, topped by 1 coat of Pahlish Confetti Cannon (part of the March 2015 duo).
I hope that if you are part of this unfortunate club, you are supported by your family, and friends. Your little one is never forgotten. ❤