Good morning my wonderful readers! I hope you are having a beautiful morning. This morning, I saw the sunrise and it was almost heartbreakingly beautiful – the whole sky was lit up with orange and pink. I had a very grateful moment this morning, that I was so happy to be on this earth.
Today marks the commemoration of Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness. The whole month of October is set aside for this purpose, but October 15 is the commemoration day. I wrote a little about my own experiences with miscarriage last year (as well as last year’s PILAM manicure here), if you feel so inclined to read that.
This year, my heart is a little lighter, a little less sore. Of course I will always wonder who my babies would have been, and what my life would be like with them in it. But I think with the recent death of my brother-in-law, it has in some way eased my own grief surrounding the deaths of my babies and my mom. I can’t explain it, and I know that grief ebbs and flows. But for now, I’m in a good place.
I then used 2 coats of OPI Better Be Blue (aka Last Friday Night) and I Lily Love You, then another coat of Don’t Burst My Bubble on top of that. I added a blue and pink butterfly on two nails. Butterflies represent the child (or children) that have died.
I want to reach out to anyone, woman or man, who has experienced the death of a child in utero or an infant. Please, know that people understand what you’re going through. Know that people in your life love you, and will grieve with you if you let them. If you know someone who has experienced a miscarriage or infant loss – please don’t say stupid things like: “You can have another” or “They’re in a better place”. Say things like: “Tell me about your child” or “Tell me what you were looking forward to” or “I will sit and cry with you”.
I’ve created a link up, so if you have a pregnancy & infant loss manicure this year that you’d like to share, please add it!
Thank you for stopping and listening to me today. Don’t forget that if you can, to light a candle at 7pm (your time) for an hour, for a wave of light.